I have a friend who works in in-patient mental health for juveniles, and part of the discharge process is giving the kids advice on how to talk about their stay with other people. He says that often these days, when he tells them, “You can just tell kids at school you were sick, you don’t have to share how,” they respond, “Wait, why can’t I just tell them the truth?” I think (hope) that things have changed a lot.
I love what you wrote in reaction to/conjunction with the quote from John Green. I hope you don't mind, but I plan to quote you (fully attributed, of course!)
Regarding the oversharing--I haven't read Turtles All the Way Down yet, but while reading your description of the scene, it was making me a bit uncomfortable too--I was expecting a negative outcome and thinking she should wait until she knows this guy better first. So I don't think you are alone in your response, even if you have past experiences that might heighten your reaction.
May 11, 2022·edited May 11, 2022Liked by Lani Diane Rich
A thought on the oversharing confusion- people who experience the combination of trouble with working memory and struggling with social cues could easily fall into the trap of oversharing.
This kind of person does not necessarily need to be exclusively male, entitled, or experiencing extreme safety with another to do something like this. Like you pointed out, this kind of behavior can easily be weaponized by those who dislike the oversharing behavior and exploit the vulnerability. A person like this is probably not acting maliciously since they are very likely to be hurt via said weaponization.
Could it be possible that someone experiencing anxiety and OCD also experiences the combination of trouble with working memory and struggling with social cues?
I have a friend who works in in-patient mental health for juveniles, and part of the discharge process is giving the kids advice on how to talk about their stay with other people. He says that often these days, when he tells them, “You can just tell kids at school you were sick, you don’t have to share how,” they respond, “Wait, why can’t I just tell them the truth?” I think (hope) that things have changed a lot.
I love what you wrote in reaction to/conjunction with the quote from John Green. I hope you don't mind, but I plan to quote you (fully attributed, of course!)
Regarding the oversharing--I haven't read Turtles All the Way Down yet, but while reading your description of the scene, it was making me a bit uncomfortable too--I was expecting a negative outcome and thinking she should wait until she knows this guy better first. So I don't think you are alone in your response, even if you have past experiences that might heighten your reaction.
A thought on the oversharing confusion- people who experience the combination of trouble with working memory and struggling with social cues could easily fall into the trap of oversharing.
This kind of person does not necessarily need to be exclusively male, entitled, or experiencing extreme safety with another to do something like this. Like you pointed out, this kind of behavior can easily be weaponized by those who dislike the oversharing behavior and exploit the vulnerability. A person like this is probably not acting maliciously since they are very likely to be hurt via said weaponization.
Could it be possible that someone experiencing anxiety and OCD also experiences the combination of trouble with working memory and struggling with social cues?